Tony and I decided not to find out the sex of our baby. We have NO idea what it is. I feel like I should have some sort of a hunch since it's hanging out in my body, but I don't. During the first trimester, I imagined it as a boy when I was awake, but dreamt of it as a girl when I slept. Recently, I've been thinking of it as gender neutral when I'm awake and I haven't had any baby dreams that I can remember.
More and more people are approaching me with their predictions for what it is. Some say, "You haven't been sick at all? Definitely a boy!" Others study the way that my body has changed and note, "You're carrying low on the hips and through the back... it's a girl!" I find it all interesting, but don't give either theory much credit. I don't get the connection between Baby's sex and how I'm feeling or carrying.
What I find curious is the authority with which people make these predictions. There is a 50/50 chance they'll be right, not bad odds, but how do they have the confidence to say so matter-of-factly what it is? They say it like it's scientifically proven that X symptom = boy/girl. Do these theories hold true for other animals? If a horse is carrying low on the hips, should the owner go and buy a pink saddle?
It's also been interesting to watch people's reactions to us not finding out the sex. Many supportive types have said, "There are so few surprises in life nowadays." I don't really agree with this. I expect lots of surprises from our child. What color hair and eyes will it have? What will its smile look like? What type of humor will it enjoy? Will it be a bookworm? An athlete? What will it daydream about? Will it be an extrovert or an introvert? There are so many unknowns, so many things we'll be surprised and delighted by.
I understand why people focus on the sex for now. There are important decisions to be made based on whether it's a boy or a girl. The name, for example. However, with so much emphasis on the sex, it seems that people have lost sight of the fact that this little individual will have a personality all its own. So far, the prediction I'm giving most credit to, though it is as scientifically flawed as the others, came from a teacher at work who studied me and said, "I think this is going to be a very calm, good-natured baby." Honestly, that matters so much more to me than whether it's a boy or a girl.